5 Ways To Be A Girl's Girl

 What Is A Girl's Girl?

This photo has a quote on it that was given to me by a good Sistren of mine named Oluwafunmilola Sule. We met under rather peculiar circumstances but that is a Patreon story! We definitely turned sh*t water into wine... Okaaaaaaaaay! But I wanted to pay homage to that because I'm so filled with gratitude for her maturity and the relationship we have cultivated from that, and she's a girl's girl.

SO WHAT IS "A GIRL'S GIRL" ?

The phrase “a girl’s girl” refers to a woman who is supportive of, loyal to, and enjoys forming strong relationships with other women. She values female friendships and camaraderie, often prioritizing solidarity and connection with other women over competing or tearing them down. The term is generally used to describe someone who is approachable, trustworthy, and genuinely uplifting in her interactions with other women.

She is me and I am she and I'm attracting more women friends with this mindset. I've always been supportive of other women. Very inclusive, I don't gatekeep, gossip nor back bite. I show qualities and evidence towards other women that I would desire for myself. When I see an opportunity that would be good for one of my fellow business besties, I share it. I plug them in to every outlet I have or know. When I started Soft Life Society Club Magazine, I put in the calls to all my ladies who I thought would make a great fit, and we handled business! Every woman is not cut from the same cloth. I do wellness checks on my circle, I always ask how they feel, what's their mental health looking like because that's important. 

When I was feeling extremely sick, went to the ER and found out I had pnemonia, one of my business besties, Porsha, who also makes natural juices came through clutch for ya girl. This woman has two young children and came out the conduit of her home in the dark, in the rain! In the effort to help me get better because she hated to hear and see me down like that, and her teas and juicing played a big part in shaking me back and getting me right. In that moment she pushed her feelings of being comfortable to the side in order to assist me. She didn't have to do that at all. But that's a girl's girl move.

If I know one of my sister's is having a rough time, I'm the type of girls girl that's going to be like: "sis what's needed?"  How can I help is what I want to know, you down bad? Why would I want you to fend for yourself? That's what a support system is for? Your car is down and I know you need things, I'm not waiting for you to ask, I'm hitting your line and pulling up like "sis I'm running to the store you need groceries? I'll grab you" "you need laundry done? Ok I'm coming to get you" til you back right on your feet because these are things I'm going to do anyway and it's not taking nothing from me because I know what it's like... Period. If my people's are doing great things, I am excited and want to share because that's my first inclination is to celebrate and get the word out for my good sis. A win is a win! 

I'm naturally a problem solver and a nurturer and where I see an issue that I can help fix, I try to offer solutions. Whether people actually use the solutions, that is their business. I just know there are too many people suffering in silence because people view them as "strong" and "independent" and that can lead to depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts because it's alot of pressure on a person, or some are simply  intimidated and refuse to be a girl's girl because they see you, they know what you possess, and with that, they know that if  you just get a toe in before them they don't want to see you advance and I just ain't on that type sh*t. We all have gifts, we all have strengths and where we are weak we are supposed to offer support to make each other strong. Sometimes that InnerG is reciprocated, and oftentimes not, because everyone's bandwidth is not the same, everyone's mentality and confidence is set up differently. I'm not threatened by the next woman when I know what I possess and I'm a force to be reckoned with. I acknowledge and admire the beauty and skillsets of others because I can't do it all, neither do I want to!

I'm divesting from Hustle and grind culture slowly but surely because I don't subscribe to the old belief system that we have to "work hard" to have the life we desire. Not in this day and age when you can make a quarter mill for sh*t like prank videos and other social media content! Ok. We just have to evolve and be mature enough to push pride and ego to the side and work as a unit like the other cultures do that want to acquire things rapidly. So how can you be a girl's girl? Here are five ways:

5 Ways To Be A Girl's Girl

1. Celebrate Other Women’s Successes
Be genuinely happy for other women’s achievements, whether big or small. Compliment them, share their wins, and avoid comparing yourself to them.
2. Be a Good Listener
Offer a safe space for your friends to share their thoughts and feelings. Listen without judgment and show empathy when they need support.
3. Avoid Gossip and Negativity
Choose to build others up instead of tearing them down. Steer clear of spreading rumors or engaging in conversations that pit women against each other.
4. Offer Support and Encouragement
Be there for other women during their challenges. Whether it’s lending a hand, giving advice, or simply offering encouragement, show that you’re someone they can count on.
5. Create Opportunities for Collaboration
Look for ways to uplift other women professionally or personally. Share resources, connect them with opportunities, and encourage teamwork instead of competition.

New Blog Writer To The Team

I am Welcoming Oluwafunmilola Sule as an author to my blog! She's an amazing creative, regards herself as thee Alchemistress! I'm super excited to see what she brings to the table with her playful and sensual InnerG. When you see the "Afro Sensual" tab that is where you can find the majority of her works, and also simply look out for her author name under certain articles. You should definitely check out her work!

In conclusion, being a girl’s girl is about embracing the power of connection, compassion, and mutual support among women. It’s about celebrating each other’s successes, lifting each other up in times of need, and fostering an environment where women can thrive together. When we stand together, we create a community of strength, encouragement, and endless possibilities. So, let’s continue to cheer each other on, nurture our bonds, and be the kind of women who inspire and empower others every day. That's why I have this grand vision for Soft Life Society Co. It's bigger than a FB group and a few social media posts but we gotta get back to being a girl's girl versus the mean girls and run up a bag!

Until next time! Stay Fly💋

-A Fly Gemini

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